I want to talk about a taboo subject that not a lot of people want to discuss with anyone other than maybe their closest friend. BDSM and for those of you not familiar with what BDSM is, it is bondage, dominance, submission and masochism. I know this is a bit personal and, believe me, I don't want to go into graphic detail about my sexual preferences nor do I want to go into others. But I have been reading a lot of erotic romance and to me, it seems to be appealing.So how many of you also find it liberating in some form to give up control either in the bedroom or all together? 

 Bondage, clearly this is the use of ropes, handcuffs, or straps.A lot of people find being restrained as a turn on.

 Dominant, this is the person who is in control, a lot of times this is the male, however, women can also be a dominate.

 submission, the act of submitting, allowing one to release control to another.

 masochism, deriving pleasure especially during sexual gratification, from one's pain or humiliation.

 Most would be okay with allowing someone to take control during sex, most women want a man to take control. Nothing is sexier than a man who knows what he wants.But then we get to masochism, how much is too much and to what extent are you willing to let a person go to seek out their pleasure or allow you your pleasure?

Are you willing to let someone choke you, depriving you of the very oxygen you need to survive and after some research I found one answer that stands out above all, People who love erotic asphyxiation is the release of endorphins, giving the a more intense orgasm and well let's face it we all want intense orgasms.

   

 Do you tell your partner what you want in the bedroom or do you just resort to the more traditional? Do you ask your partner to pull your hair or talk dirty to you? Do you think it necessary to spice up a relationship? For me and my husband, we have tried pretty much everything but there are limits that we both will not cross. Sex is meant to be a moment of trust and love expressed physically between a couple but that doesn't mean it can't also be fun or a chance to learn what you both like and are willing to try.

Please note that I am not encouraging choking or hurting of either party and in no way would I recommend this to anyone!!!